Update time!

Hello everyone, I know it has been a VERY long time since I last posted. I just wanted to update you on everything that has happened in our lives over the past year. As I mentioned in my last post, I had a baby girl named Natalie Paige. She is 18 months old now and she is absolutely perfect. She is a bit spoiled, though, I have to admit. My son is about to turn 6 years old, and he will be starting school in September. It is amazing to see how much they grow. My husband and I are still together, and we are the happiest we have ever been. He is so amazing, and is truly my best friend. Last time I posted, we were all living in Texas, however, since then we have moved twice. The first time to Georgia, and now we live in Washington state. Why such a huge move, you ask? My husband is now in the Army and is an official badass. He really is. He is so great at what he does. It is unbelievable. We have not been through a deployment yes, and we hope we don't have to, even though I know that is unlikely. We are no longer living paycheck to paycheck, and we are not supported by the government anymore, which is a true blessing. My husband works about 13hrs a day, maybe more. We don't see him a lot. Like now, for example, when he is in the field for 2 weeks and we don't see him at all. It is hard, but it is worth it, I suppose. As for me, I am still in nursing school, but I have started my own business as a professional writer/editor. I am currently editing a book for a known published author, and it will be our shortly. The business is doing well, and I hope to write my own book soon. I am still in nursing school. It has taken longer then expected with 2 children and all the moving, but I am still pushing for it. I love it where we live, but we haven't seen our families in about a year, so that's hard. AND, I have lost 60lbs! I went from 217 to 158lbs in a matter of 3-4 months. I feel great and I am in fantastic shape! It just goes to show, you have to push for your goals. You will get there. Is there anything new going on with my once-upon-a-time readers? If you would like to check out my business, you may do so at www.yellowribbonwritingservices.com

Halloween!

How was everyone's Halloween? Did you dress up a long with your kids? I took my kids Trick Or Treating last night at the base where my husband is stationed. He couldn't come with me, but I was determined to have a good time. I waled all around the neighborhood for about 1hr 1/2 and decided it was time to go. I walked ALL the way back to the car and realized I had lost my keys!!!! It was cold and dark, so I talked to the MP. Military Police and told them I lost my keys. They put us in their cop car to stay warm while they sent patrols to search for them. After a while I decided to go walk and try to find them. It was cold, dark, and scary. No one was out anymore. Thank goodness after about 1hr, some one turned them in! I was freaking out. The MP's were very nice. They even said if they didn't find my keys they were going to put us up in a hotel room on the base for the night, free of charge. Other then that it was a pretty awesome night!

Update!

Hey everyone. I know it has been a while since I have posted. I have been super busy. I am now living in Georgia with my family. My husbands career in the army is going fantastic. I thought the 2 1/2 months he was gone would never get over with. I remember the first hug I got from him when I saw him at his graduation. It was heaven. He was such a different man then he was when he left. It made me sad at first, but then after he came out of his uniform it was back to his old self. He just takes his job seriously and acts professional in his uniform. My daughter Natalie is 7MO now and is growing so fast. She has 2 teeth now and is starting to crawl. My sons birthday is on November 5th and he will be 5 years old. I can't believe has fast the days have gone. He will always be my baby no matter how old he gets. We have been going to the library here and going to the activities they have there and have been checking out books and reading together. I think education is a very important part of his life and it will be the main priority. He will be starting school next August due to his late birthday. He will be attending school in Washington. We are PCSing there in a short time with the Army. I hope you are all doing well.

An Army Wife, & 2 kids at 20

These past few days have been really tough. My daughter is 3 months old now and she has been super fussy the last two days. She doesn't want anything, except to be held all the time. My son has an additude about everything lately. Everything with him is a fight. We literally have to force feed him because he doesn't like to eat anything but crap. That's my fault because I didn't know how to parent as a teen. I am under a lot of stress with college, the kids, and now with my husband leaving for the army. I am going to be all alone for about 7 months. I realized a lot after I had my daughter. I realized with I was 15, and had my son, I was completely unprepared. I am actually a good mother to my daughter because I know things now that I didn't back then. I am financially able to take care of both of my kids now. Who knows what kind of damage my son will have when he is older because he had such an ignorant mother. I love my son to death, but I now know that he deserved better then having a teenager for a parent. Whats done is done, and I wouldn't trade him for the world. I just wish I would have been able to give him everything I gave my daughter. I am a stay at home mother now & my kids have a mother there all the time. That is what they deserve. Not a teenage who has to struggle to find a babysitter so she can make it to 10th grade on time, if at all. Think before you act. If you know someone who is struggling with the decision of becoming a parent, refer them to this blog. Let them hear how it is from someone who has been there.

Attention everyone, My husband leaves for basic training in a few days & I have created a new blog covering my experiences as a military wife. I think you will really enjoy it. Give it a look & become a follower! Let me know what you think. Also, I will be covering my weightloss on that page as well. I would love to lose 30lbs before my husbands graduation. www.alwayswaitingforasoldier.blogspot.com

One of those days

I seriously just about had a melt down. My son was acting out so I told him to go to his room and go to sleep and he sit there and was screaming at the top of his lungs "I don't want to go to sleep" and all sorts of other stuff(he is four btw) and I kept telling him to be quite and stop yelling and he wouldn't. He just kept doing it. Finally I went in and spanked him twice and he kept doing it no matter how many times I told him to stop. I finally had to call his dad in from outside to come in and talk to him. As soon as his dad came in he was perfectly fine. I was in tears by this poing. I am so damn frustrated. My husband is leaving for basic training in less then 3 months and I can't even control him. What am I supposed to do? I am losing my mind with him. He is always talking back, and whines when I tell him to do anything. I don't know how to handle him acting like this. Even if I do spank him it doesn't do any good. It's not like he is a bad kid or something; he isn't. He is very good he is just always whining when I tell him to do something and always has an attitude and talks back to me. (NEVER to his dad) I don't know if it's me getting more frustrated then usual because of the new baby, or if this is really happening. Am I just being more irritable. I don't know. I feel so guilty sometimes because I know that I give Natalie more attention and I get angry with him when he is jumping around her and stuff, but she is a baby and she needs more attention. I love my son, I do, but I don't know how I am supposed to deal with him when my husband is gone. Frankley this scares the shit out of me. I have been super stressed latley thinking about him leaving. That's one more thing I need to add to the list.

Another Planned Addition to the Family

My daughter Natalie Paige was born march 19,2012. She was 7.36lbs and 19 in long. I love her more then words can describe. Shes adorable and both of my kids are blessings. I love being a mother and now that my husband has joined the military, I can finally be a stay at home mother. Its all I have ever wanted. I love my husband. He is my bestfriend and he is a great husband and father who will do anything to make Natalie, Aden, and I happy. I am excited but scared about our military life. He leaves july 3 and I will miss him so much. I don't know how I will function without him around to help my and laugh with me. I am just greatful god blessed me with such a great family & I know he will get us through this.

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Pregnant again!

I know I haven't posted in a while so forgive me, I have had so much going on these last few months. I am now 7 Months pregnant with my second baby, Natalie. This too was a planned pregnancy and me and my husband couldn't be more excited about adding to our family. I will post pics as soon as she is born and will update asap.

Happy Holidays!

 This weekend was amazing in terms of family time. My son had an amazing time poping the fireworks. I went down to my moms for the 4th of July and when we got there they had a suprise graduation party waiting for my fiance and I. It was so sweet and we were showered with gifts. The next day my niece, Alexus(Lexi) came home with us and spent the night with Aden. They were playing all night. Shes 6 and he is 3 so she was complaining about how he was getting on her nerves a little. Probably because he was whining about everything as usual. Eventually his dad got fed up with it and made him go to timeout and when he came out he was acting fine. They both were loving lighting the fireworks( with our supervison of course). So anyway, it turned out to be a pretty good weekend.
  Also, I finally remembered a name of a childhood movie I loved. The Seventh Brother. I have been watching it on youtube all day. Its my guilty pleasure I suppose. What is your favorite childhood movie?

Home Videos

 So I was going though my computer files and I found some old home videos. They were all from when Aden was under a year old.  I absolutley loved watching them. It made me go back a few years to when my baby was still a baby. He looks the same, but now he is more like a little boy then my baby that I once knew. It was like a totally different person. It makes me kind of sad to see how fast time goes by. I am going to be sure to make more videos from now on because I know in a few years I am going to miss the person he is now. I wish I could go back in time and live in that age forever. The time where he needed me more then he does now. I wish I could visit the past anytime I wanted to. Also, if I could go back and change somethings that I did, or didn't do as a mother, I would. I know I made mistakes as a mother because I was so unexperienced. I did the best I could with my son, and I am a good mother.
   On another note, Aden just threw a shoe and knocked the bowel off the table. Then the bowel flew at me and sliced my ankle open. He keeps apoligizing. I know he didn't mean too. He's so sweet. I will try to upload some home videos tomorrow. Night.

IDTS

 I'm sitting here watching "True Life" because I had a nightmare and I couldn't sleep and now I have a horrible headache that's either do to lack of sleep or lack of food. Anyway, in this episode this 16 year old girl had a baby and her and her boyfriend split up after the baby was born because he was cheating. But then it showed how this scum bag was taking her son and letting his girlfriend who he cheated on her with, be around the baby. She was holding him, and feeding him, and posting pictures of him on Facebook like the baby was hers. Then the boyfriend commented on the photo saying " I can't wait to have a family with Rena, shes going to be a great mother. I can tell by the way she looks at Ayden. I would Murder this girl. If there is one thing that you just don't do, its take another women's child and pretend like its yours! And I would absolutely not let the father take my baby anymore without supervision. How disrespectful is that? That's like the worst thing that you can do. I feel so horrible for this girl because she probably expected to have a family with this guy and hes trying to make a family with some other girl using her child. I don't know how you guys feel about it, but that guy would be done in my book!

The Sweet Things My Son Says

    I love Aden. He is so adorable and he says the sweetest things. If I am feeling in a bad or grouchy mood he always cheers me up. For example: I am getting dressed and Aden says " you look pretty mama". Or yesterday when me and my fiance were joking around and he wouldn't kiss me Aden said " daddy wont kiss you?" " Nope, because he doesn't love me" "Well... I love you" =) he knew we were kidding but still, how awesome is it that he says things that are so sweet. This is where being a mother becomes rewarding.

A Trip To The Dentist

  So today I took myself and my son to see the dentist. Aden had a cavity that needed to be filled and I got a free cleaning. Anyway the dentist walked in and he had to be the hottest dentist on the planet. I mean how on earth can I concentrate when this guy who looks like a God is my dentist. He was in his 40's, he was Hispanic, had beautiful eyes, and the most gorgeous face. I almost had an orgasm when he walked it. I swear he reminded me of my husband, that's probably why I thought he was so sexy. Anyway it turns out that I need 12 fillings. WTF? I have NEVER had a cavity and then it hit me. He told me that my enamel was low and that's when I realized that all the purging I have done over the years have ruined my teeth.(lesson learned ladies) And if that isn't enough, I also have no insurance to pay for the $1400.00 surgery and fillings. (I need all my wisdom teeth pulled)
  On another note, I got the teacher job I was talking about! I start on the 23rd. Now maybe I can afford to buy the two cars we need and the dental surgery. It is such a relief that I finally found a good job. I can safely say this has been a great day!

Feel Beautiful

  Being a mother is stressful, and lets just be honest and face the fact that we can't always look our greatest. Hell, most of us probably go around wearing our hair in a bun or pony tail and sweatpants when we are not a work. Don't get me wrong, sweats are my favorite thing to wear, but our husbands probably don't think that sweats are as sexy as we think they are. So this is my challenge to you; get dressed up or do something to make yourself feel beautiful. I know that money is tight but there is inexpensive things you can do to make yourself feel beautiful. I for instance and going to get my hair cut tomorrow for free! I know what your thinking" free isn't in my vocabulary" however you can go to the local college and get the cosmetology students to cut your hair for free or a very small fee. I also am going to stop by Walmart and pick up some hair dye because to be honest, my roots have been showing for quite sometime.
  My new weight loss diet and new hair do is sure to make me feel very sexy. I hope it brings out confidence in me that I haven't felt in a while.  I will feel like a new person and I really hope you will do the same. We are women, we are mothers, and we deserve to feel beautiful! Tell me what you did to make yourself feel beautiful this week!

Back On Track!

   I am so excited to be on track with my weight loss goals! I have to admit after I had Aden I thought the baby weight was just going to come off. I couldn't have been more wrong. I actually gained 20lbs after I had my son. It was all due to laziness. I made excuses to why I wasn't going to workout; it was too hot, it was too cold, I didn't feel good, it was too late etc. I had a million excuses and now I look in the mirror 3 years later and I don't like what I see. But that's all in the past. I am on a low calorie diet and a exercise plan now; its day two and I have done great so far, I have already lost about 2 lbs and I weigh again in the morning. I am so very excited to be making progress again. I am going to lose 40lbs in 3 months! Wish me luck!
 

 I really hope that you are enjoying my posts and I would love to hear from my readers! You can track my weight loss project at www.thin-victoria.blogspot.com

Slowly Losing My Mind

    Do some of you ever feel like your kids are driving you crazy?!? I don't know what it is lately but Aden has really just been pushing my buttons and I am about to lose the last bit of sanity I have. He has been talking back, whining, throwing fits, and just being disrespectful. If I tell him to clean his room he whines and cries. If I tell him to eat his food he balls up his fists makes an ugly face and says ugggmmm. He likes to challenge me and see how far he can get. I am a parent who believes in disciplining my son, he doesn't get away with stuff like this so I don't know why he is starting to act out. I think it may have to do with the fact that his dad has started a new job and we don't see him as much as we used to. We see him everyday but not all day, and its my job to keep Aden in line when his dad isn't home.
  I feel like I am a terrible mother for getting so frustrated at him. And I feel like I am a failure for my son acting like this. I am so embarrassed to take him out places because I fear he may act out. I don't like to spank my son in public. I feel like that is a private matter. If you don't think that I should spank my son I have one thing to say to you, get off my page. I like my readers, but how I discipline my son is my decision. I spank my son, I don't beat him and I believe there is a huge difference. I swat my son on the but to get his attention, not to hurt him.
   I wish that I knew what to do about his behavior. I am open to suggestions because I am not a perfect parent, I know that. I do the best I can but evidently that's not good enough. I can't help but think that I feel so helpless because I am a teen mother. If I were older maybe I would know how to handle him better. Not that I am not a good mother. I am, I do the best I can but I still feel like he deserves more. If that's not a good mother I don't know what is. And if you can say you have never felt helpless when it comes to your children, I would have to say I don't believe you. Everyone feels like this at one point or the other. My question is this: how do you deal with it? Do you exercise, read, take a walk, lock yourself in the closet, take a nap, see a therapist, what? What is it that you do to keep your sanity?
   Maybe I just need to take some time for myself soon. Maybe I can just go spend some time with my sister at the movies, or have a date with my fiance. I wish I had money to go to a spa. Oh how amazing does that sound? I wish I was rich and I wouldn't have to worry about money issues anymore.  I could do whatever I wanted.
  Don't get me wrong I love my son very much and I wouldn't trade him for the world, but I have to admit a secret of mine. A fantasy almost. I have this idea that my husband could watch my son for three days and I would rent a nice hotel room. I would stay at the hotel in the room for the whole three days(well maybe I could fit in some shopping ;] ) I would read and sleep all I could. I would cuddle up under the blanket and just relax. I would turn off my phone and only take emergency calls. I would just enjoy a little time to myself to get my mind in a place of peace. Not in the chaotic stage that its in now. But that's just a fantasy and I know you have one too. If I had to choose between fantasy and reality though, I would definitely choose reality because I love my son and being his mother is the most rewarding thing I have ever been blessed with.


  So how about it? Whats your relaxation fantasy? You don't have to be a mother to answer. I know all women need a little alone time. And how do you keep from losing your mind when times get stressful?  I would love to hear your responses please leave comments with your answers or via E-mail: Victoria.Baker0102010@gmail.com

Don't Be A Statistic!

There are many statistics out there about teen mothers, most of which aren't so good. I want to let you know that you don't have to be one of these statistics. You can be greater then what people expect you to be. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you have to give up on all your dreams. There are many options out in the world for young mothers today. They have priviate schools where you can earn your high school dimploma from home. They have financial aid so you can still go to school, and the government even has a service where you can recieve free daycare.(the service is called CCS. Check with your local human services department for more information).
   I am not going to lie and tell you that its easy to do these things, because its not. It is very tough but you owe it to yourself and your child to be the best you can be. You owe it to them to create a life for your family where you don't have to struggle. I believe in you and I believe that you can do it!  It is very important not to slack off and not to get left behind. You have to stay on track to avoid getting behind. It is very tough to catch back up.
  I have tons of information for young girls if you need any help with anything I would be glad to answer questions and help you the best way that I can.

Molested.

I had a horrible dream last night. I woke up screaming, crying, and shaking. My fiance comforted me as I tried to fall back to sleep. The dream was that I was a little girl again and that my brother was on top of me. I hate him for what he did to me. He molested me for four years when I was a little girl. The memory haunts me all the time. I need to vent. I know a lot of you don't care and its not your problem. He is a piece of shit and I hate him. If he died I wouldn't go to his funeral. Not only did my brother molest me, but my best friends step dad did too when I was 12. He thought I was asleep and he lifted up my shirt and fondled my breast. My family never knew what happened to me until a few years ago when I told them. How could they be so blind to not know? I kind of resent them for not knowing. I told my family what happened to me and my mother was really mad that my Half-Brother would do this to me. My dad however told my mom that I should just forget it and move on. I think that's bullshit. He is supposed to protect me. I will not ever leave my son around him. As far as I am concerned my son doesn't have an uncle. He is dead to me. He has a daughter that he never sees, and I am glad. I would kill him if he did anything to her.
    Don't trust people around your kids just because they are family members or close friends. And look for the signs. You can save your children from a life of hardship if you just look for the signs and catch these things early.

A Perfect Day

    I had a wonderful time with my son today. I took him to the movies and saw "Cars 2". We ate popcorn and enjoyed ourselves. After the movie we went to that local water park and played for three hours. I really enjoyed playing with my son. He had a blast and I think it is so important to spend quality time with your children. I think I am going to try to do something like this a few times a month. Just spend time with Aden alone doing things that he will enjoy. He is such a good boy and he deserves a reward every once in a while. He is really great and I am truly thankful that god has blessed me with him. He is amazing and I love him with all my heart. If you have children I suggest you do something that they love doing. Just spend some quality time with your children. It is really rewarding to watch your children have those huge smiles on their faces. You don't have to spend money. Just go outside and play with them, or read with them( like you should already do each day). Make a vow to yourself to clear out time out of your week to spend uninterrupted time with your children. It will definitely pay off.

Photography By: Victoria Baker    Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker    Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker  Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker   Copyright.

What Are People Thinking?

 I am just curious as to what people are thinking these days; I have a former friends that I spoke to today who I haven't seen in a while and she told me that she might be pregnant. Let me explain why I think that this is so obsured. This girl is CRAZY, which is why we stopped being friends in the first place. She is so wierd. She like cuts her hair by herself all wierd and dyes it all different colors, shes been in a mental hospital, shes tried to kill her self, she cuts her self, she is bisexual, she cuts her clothes really short so they don't fit her, she does drugs and drinks, and she is very premiscuious. Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against people who are different. I often stand up for people who are not what individuals define as "normal", but this girl is psychotic. Shes on tons of different pills and everything.
  Anyway, this girl told me she may be pregnant so I decided to ask her some questions. " Wow really that's crazy are you even in school?" " Nope." " How do you plan on supporting a baby? Do you at least have a job?" "Yea, I work at Whataburger" " Oh, are you with the father?" " Yea, but I don't think we are going to last very long". ( just as a note to add to her craziness her signature on text was "mad professor") My point is, what is wrong with people these days? I mean shes not in school, she works at Whataburger, and she doesn't think her and her boyfriend are going to last. Who in their right mind would be having unprotected sex with someone if they don't even know if they are going to stay with them? I know I was a young mother but I had a pretty good indication that I was going to stay with my baby's father. There is no way that this girl can take care of a baby. If there is one person in the world who shouldn't have a child,especially as a teenager, its this girl. 

     People need to be more responsible. Especially when it comes to who they are having unprotected sex with. That's have you end up being a dead-beat mother and also how you get STD's. Be smart people. Really, if you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen!