IDTS

 I'm sitting here watching "True Life" because I had a nightmare and I couldn't sleep and now I have a horrible headache that's either do to lack of sleep or lack of food. Anyway, in this episode this 16 year old girl had a baby and her and her boyfriend split up after the baby was born because he was cheating. But then it showed how this scum bag was taking her son and letting his girlfriend who he cheated on her with, be around the baby. She was holding him, and feeding him, and posting pictures of him on Facebook like the baby was hers. Then the boyfriend commented on the photo saying " I can't wait to have a family with Rena, shes going to be a great mother. I can tell by the way she looks at Ayden. I would Murder this girl. If there is one thing that you just don't do, its take another women's child and pretend like its yours! And I would absolutely not let the father take my baby anymore without supervision. How disrespectful is that? That's like the worst thing that you can do. I feel so horrible for this girl because she probably expected to have a family with this guy and hes trying to make a family with some other girl using her child. I don't know how you guys feel about it, but that guy would be done in my book!

The Sweet Things My Son Says

    I love Aden. He is so adorable and he says the sweetest things. If I am feeling in a bad or grouchy mood he always cheers me up. For example: I am getting dressed and Aden says " you look pretty mama". Or yesterday when me and my fiance were joking around and he wouldn't kiss me Aden said " daddy wont kiss you?" " Nope, because he doesn't love me" "Well... I love you" =) he knew we were kidding but still, how awesome is it that he says things that are so sweet. This is where being a mother becomes rewarding.

A Trip To The Dentist

  So today I took myself and my son to see the dentist. Aden had a cavity that needed to be filled and I got a free cleaning. Anyway the dentist walked in and he had to be the hottest dentist on the planet. I mean how on earth can I concentrate when this guy who looks like a God is my dentist. He was in his 40's, he was Hispanic, had beautiful eyes, and the most gorgeous face. I almost had an orgasm when he walked it. I swear he reminded me of my husband, that's probably why I thought he was so sexy. Anyway it turns out that I need 12 fillings. WTF? I have NEVER had a cavity and then it hit me. He told me that my enamel was low and that's when I realized that all the purging I have done over the years have ruined my teeth.(lesson learned ladies) And if that isn't enough, I also have no insurance to pay for the $1400.00 surgery and fillings. (I need all my wisdom teeth pulled)
  On another note, I got the teacher job I was talking about! I start on the 23rd. Now maybe I can afford to buy the two cars we need and the dental surgery. It is such a relief that I finally found a good job. I can safely say this has been a great day!

Feel Beautiful

  Being a mother is stressful, and lets just be honest and face the fact that we can't always look our greatest. Hell, most of us probably go around wearing our hair in a bun or pony tail and sweatpants when we are not a work. Don't get me wrong, sweats are my favorite thing to wear, but our husbands probably don't think that sweats are as sexy as we think they are. So this is my challenge to you; get dressed up or do something to make yourself feel beautiful. I know that money is tight but there is inexpensive things you can do to make yourself feel beautiful. I for instance and going to get my hair cut tomorrow for free! I know what your thinking" free isn't in my vocabulary" however you can go to the local college and get the cosmetology students to cut your hair for free or a very small fee. I also am going to stop by Walmart and pick up some hair dye because to be honest, my roots have been showing for quite sometime.
  My new weight loss diet and new hair do is sure to make me feel very sexy. I hope it brings out confidence in me that I haven't felt in a while.  I will feel like a new person and I really hope you will do the same. We are women, we are mothers, and we deserve to feel beautiful! Tell me what you did to make yourself feel beautiful this week!

Back On Track!

   I am so excited to be on track with my weight loss goals! I have to admit after I had Aden I thought the baby weight was just going to come off. I couldn't have been more wrong. I actually gained 20lbs after I had my son. It was all due to laziness. I made excuses to why I wasn't going to workout; it was too hot, it was too cold, I didn't feel good, it was too late etc. I had a million excuses and now I look in the mirror 3 years later and I don't like what I see. But that's all in the past. I am on a low calorie diet and a exercise plan now; its day two and I have done great so far, I have already lost about 2 lbs and I weigh again in the morning. I am so very excited to be making progress again. I am going to lose 40lbs in 3 months! Wish me luck!
 

 I really hope that you are enjoying my posts and I would love to hear from my readers! You can track my weight loss project at www.thin-victoria.blogspot.com

Slowly Losing My Mind

    Do some of you ever feel like your kids are driving you crazy?!? I don't know what it is lately but Aden has really just been pushing my buttons and I am about to lose the last bit of sanity I have. He has been talking back, whining, throwing fits, and just being disrespectful. If I tell him to clean his room he whines and cries. If I tell him to eat his food he balls up his fists makes an ugly face and says ugggmmm. He likes to challenge me and see how far he can get. I am a parent who believes in disciplining my son, he doesn't get away with stuff like this so I don't know why he is starting to act out. I think it may have to do with the fact that his dad has started a new job and we don't see him as much as we used to. We see him everyday but not all day, and its my job to keep Aden in line when his dad isn't home.
  I feel like I am a terrible mother for getting so frustrated at him. And I feel like I am a failure for my son acting like this. I am so embarrassed to take him out places because I fear he may act out. I don't like to spank my son in public. I feel like that is a private matter. If you don't think that I should spank my son I have one thing to say to you, get off my page. I like my readers, but how I discipline my son is my decision. I spank my son, I don't beat him and I believe there is a huge difference. I swat my son on the but to get his attention, not to hurt him.
   I wish that I knew what to do about his behavior. I am open to suggestions because I am not a perfect parent, I know that. I do the best I can but evidently that's not good enough. I can't help but think that I feel so helpless because I am a teen mother. If I were older maybe I would know how to handle him better. Not that I am not a good mother. I am, I do the best I can but I still feel like he deserves more. If that's not a good mother I don't know what is. And if you can say you have never felt helpless when it comes to your children, I would have to say I don't believe you. Everyone feels like this at one point or the other. My question is this: how do you deal with it? Do you exercise, read, take a walk, lock yourself in the closet, take a nap, see a therapist, what? What is it that you do to keep your sanity?
   Maybe I just need to take some time for myself soon. Maybe I can just go spend some time with my sister at the movies, or have a date with my fiance. I wish I had money to go to a spa. Oh how amazing does that sound? I wish I was rich and I wouldn't have to worry about money issues anymore.  I could do whatever I wanted.
  Don't get me wrong I love my son very much and I wouldn't trade him for the world, but I have to admit a secret of mine. A fantasy almost. I have this idea that my husband could watch my son for three days and I would rent a nice hotel room. I would stay at the hotel in the room for the whole three days(well maybe I could fit in some shopping ;] ) I would read and sleep all I could. I would cuddle up under the blanket and just relax. I would turn off my phone and only take emergency calls. I would just enjoy a little time to myself to get my mind in a place of peace. Not in the chaotic stage that its in now. But that's just a fantasy and I know you have one too. If I had to choose between fantasy and reality though, I would definitely choose reality because I love my son and being his mother is the most rewarding thing I have ever been blessed with.


  So how about it? Whats your relaxation fantasy? You don't have to be a mother to answer. I know all women need a little alone time. And how do you keep from losing your mind when times get stressful?  I would love to hear your responses please leave comments with your answers or via E-mail: Victoria.Baker0102010@gmail.com

Don't Be A Statistic!

There are many statistics out there about teen mothers, most of which aren't so good. I want to let you know that you don't have to be one of these statistics. You can be greater then what people expect you to be. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you have to give up on all your dreams. There are many options out in the world for young mothers today. They have priviate schools where you can earn your high school dimploma from home. They have financial aid so you can still go to school, and the government even has a service where you can recieve free daycare.(the service is called CCS. Check with your local human services department for more information).
   I am not going to lie and tell you that its easy to do these things, because its not. It is very tough but you owe it to yourself and your child to be the best you can be. You owe it to them to create a life for your family where you don't have to struggle. I believe in you and I believe that you can do it!  It is very important not to slack off and not to get left behind. You have to stay on track to avoid getting behind. It is very tough to catch back up.
  I have tons of information for young girls if you need any help with anything I would be glad to answer questions and help you the best way that I can.

Molested.

I had a horrible dream last night. I woke up screaming, crying, and shaking. My fiance comforted me as I tried to fall back to sleep. The dream was that I was a little girl again and that my brother was on top of me. I hate him for what he did to me. He molested me for four years when I was a little girl. The memory haunts me all the time. I need to vent. I know a lot of you don't care and its not your problem. He is a piece of shit and I hate him. If he died I wouldn't go to his funeral. Not only did my brother molest me, but my best friends step dad did too when I was 12. He thought I was asleep and he lifted up my shirt and fondled my breast. My family never knew what happened to me until a few years ago when I told them. How could they be so blind to not know? I kind of resent them for not knowing. I told my family what happened to me and my mother was really mad that my Half-Brother would do this to me. My dad however told my mom that I should just forget it and move on. I think that's bullshit. He is supposed to protect me. I will not ever leave my son around him. As far as I am concerned my son doesn't have an uncle. He is dead to me. He has a daughter that he never sees, and I am glad. I would kill him if he did anything to her.
    Don't trust people around your kids just because they are family members or close friends. And look for the signs. You can save your children from a life of hardship if you just look for the signs and catch these things early.

A Perfect Day

    I had a wonderful time with my son today. I took him to the movies and saw "Cars 2". We ate popcorn and enjoyed ourselves. After the movie we went to that local water park and played for three hours. I really enjoyed playing with my son. He had a blast and I think it is so important to spend quality time with your children. I think I am going to try to do something like this a few times a month. Just spend time with Aden alone doing things that he will enjoy. He is such a good boy and he deserves a reward every once in a while. He is really great and I am truly thankful that god has blessed me with him. He is amazing and I love him with all my heart. If you have children I suggest you do something that they love doing. Just spend some quality time with your children. It is really rewarding to watch your children have those huge smiles on their faces. You don't have to spend money. Just go outside and play with them, or read with them( like you should already do each day). Make a vow to yourself to clear out time out of your week to spend uninterrupted time with your children. It will definitely pay off.

Photography By: Victoria Baker    Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker    Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker  Copyright.

Photography By: Victoria Baker   Copyright.

What Are People Thinking?

 I am just curious as to what people are thinking these days; I have a former friends that I spoke to today who I haven't seen in a while and she told me that she might be pregnant. Let me explain why I think that this is so obsured. This girl is CRAZY, which is why we stopped being friends in the first place. She is so wierd. She like cuts her hair by herself all wierd and dyes it all different colors, shes been in a mental hospital, shes tried to kill her self, she cuts her self, she is bisexual, she cuts her clothes really short so they don't fit her, she does drugs and drinks, and she is very premiscuious. Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against people who are different. I often stand up for people who are not what individuals define as "normal", but this girl is psychotic. Shes on tons of different pills and everything.
  Anyway, this girl told me she may be pregnant so I decided to ask her some questions. " Wow really that's crazy are you even in school?" " Nope." " How do you plan on supporting a baby? Do you at least have a job?" "Yea, I work at Whataburger" " Oh, are you with the father?" " Yea, but I don't think we are going to last very long". ( just as a note to add to her craziness her signature on text was "mad professor") My point is, what is wrong with people these days? I mean shes not in school, she works at Whataburger, and she doesn't think her and her boyfriend are going to last. Who in their right mind would be having unprotected sex with someone if they don't even know if they are going to stay with them? I know I was a young mother but I had a pretty good indication that I was going to stay with my baby's father. There is no way that this girl can take care of a baby. If there is one person in the world who shouldn't have a child,especially as a teenager, its this girl. 

     People need to be more responsible. Especially when it comes to who they are having unprotected sex with. That's have you end up being a dead-beat mother and also how you get STD's. Be smart people. Really, if you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen!

If You Don't Know What A Pap Smear Is......

    If you don't know what a pap smear is, you shouldn't be having sex. Period, end of discussion. One of my friends girlfriends text me and asked me how she could get on birth control without her parents consent.(they have no idea she is sexually active). Anyway, I am a birth control fanatic. I believe if a teen is being sexually active, they should have the right to protect themselves. I told her to go to planned parenthood and that she has to go and fill out her information on the form they give her, and that she would probably have to get a pap smear. Her reply was"Whats a pap smear? Is that like that little duck thing they use to clean you out?" What the hell is she talking about? I could only assume she was talking about a douche. And then I told her she would have to fill out information about her income and she said" OMG that's a lot I don't know that kind of stuff".

  These are simple questions, and things that a sexually active female should know. She is trying to act like an adult, but she can't even answer questions about her income. If you can't answer these simple questions you should be having sex. God help her if she was to get pregnant. Because she doesn't know this information I have volunteered to take her and help her with the process. Should I not be taking her? If I don't take her I think she will get pregnant, but I do plan on letting her know that I don' think she should be having sex if she doesn't know this information. You at least have to be a little resourceful.
   
   Come on ladies; take some responsibility for what your doing. Grow up a little before you make these life decisions. Become a women before you give your body to a man. And if you want birth control, know the steps you have to take to get it. Here is a question for my readers:

Do you think we should make it easier for our teen girls to get birth control without parental permission?

Leave me your opinion in the COMMENTS section of the post.

Keeping My Faith!

So finally after months of looking I finally got an interview! I had my first one today at a bank, and my second one is tomorrow for a school teacher position. I am very excited. I really hope that I can get the job at the school that way I can put my son in head start and I will be able to watch him there. My interview at the bank went really well today and I do believe I will get called back for a second interview.  I will do everything I can to get either of these jobs. I really want to help take some of the weight of of my fiance's shoulders. I know he has been stressed out. This post is going to be short today because of the fact that I am exhausted. Please take some time to take the surveys that are located on my page www.startingyoung-victoria.blogspot.com

COMING UP NEXT: Don't Be Another Statistic

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Can't We Just Catch A Break?

  I sometimes wonder when my family can catch a break. Its like once something good happens, something else goes wrong. It never fails. My fiance got a job; we got into a wreck and the tire flies off the truck; I have a job interview; the truck breaks down yet again and messes up the whole entire vehicle. There is really no justice. I mean really how worse can it get? I have a miscarriage and mess up the only vehicle we have all in one week? We are good people. We don't deserve this. We shouldn't have to live paycheck-to-paycheck. This is bullshit and I am tired of it.
   I am tired of the stress. We work so hard to get no where, and its just not fair. I know "life's not fair" but when do we get our break? When can we have some light shine into our darkness? I wish for once that my prayers would be answered. I am in no way blaming God for this, but I pray and pray and I wish that it would pay off. I am very blessed to have my family alive and well and to have a roof over our heads ,but I wish something would go our way for once. I wish we didn't have to live like this.
When can we catch a break?

Sexual Education: For Mothers

No one wants your their daughter to become pregnant at a young age. No mother wants to hear the painful truth that their daughter is going to be a mother. And no mother wants to see their daughters dreams disappear before their eyes.

You may ask yourself all the time "what can I do to make sure my daughter is safe?" Well I can tell you this much, you have to keep an eye on your daughter. A lot of mothers can say "well I trust my daughter" but when it comes down to it you are responsible for keeping her safe and the ones whose mothers trust them are the ones who end up pregnant. I am not saying take away all of her freedom, but you should be more aware of where she is at all times.

Now kids can get very creative when they want to have sex. Like I mentioned in one of my older posts, I have had sex with my mother-in-law in the room and with my mother in the next room. This isn't because I was a "slut". Its because when a teenage wants to have sex, they will become very brave. If your daughter has been dating for more then 6 months with the same guy, they are probably having sex.

My biggest warnings to parents would be don't let your daughters go outside with their boyfriends. This is the most important rule I have. Teens don't mind having sex on the ground and outside is the absolute worst place that they will try to have sex without your knowledge. They will have sex in a barn, in a club house, in the truck when they are driving home, in their room under a blanket while they are watching a movie, on the roof, and yes believe it or not teens will have sex in school. I know tons of girls ( including myself) who has had sex on school grounds. All your children have to do is find a bathroom to go to, go into the stall, shut the door and do their business. They also with go out to the football fields and do it it the stands, and I have even seen students go into the class room and engage in sexual activities. It may seen impossible but trust me, the teachers don't watch them nearly as closely as you think they do.

You need to educate your daughter about sex. Tell her the consequences of pregnancy, STD's and getting their heart broken. They need to keep their innocents as long as they can. Also, this next subject is a bit touchy for most parents. Birth control. GIVE IT TO THEM. Make sure they have access to it. A lot of parents think that if you provide your children with birth control that is giving them permission to do it. However, if your kids want to have sex, they are going to have sex, period. Wouldn't you rather them be honest with you about it and let them have something to protect themselves with? They are going to do it either way and it is your job as a parent to protect your child from all the consequences that comes with having sex.

My point is this; protect your daughters. Make sure that you are looking out for them, even if they aren't looking out for themselves. Make sure they get to have this time in their life to be teenagers.

     It may seThis is the most important rule I have.

School, Fitness, Work, Family, And A Miscarriage

    Last night I was having some very horrible cramps. I couldn't shake the feeling that I was having a miscarriage. Today I woke up to find that my period had came once again. I can't help feeling very sad and responsible. I feel like I killed our baby. I know I wasn't sure if I was pregnant, but I feel in my heart that I was.
  I told my fiance that I started my period, then I went in the bathroom and cried. I feel very ashamed. I told many people I was pregnant, and then I couldn't carry my baby to term. I want another child so badly, but I hate feeling like this. I hate feeling disappointed every month because I am not pregnant. This is my first miscarriage that I know of. I have been cramping for two days and I am ready for the pain to go away so I can just return back to normal. I should have known it wouldn't have been this easy.
  All I can do is pray to God that he gives me another beautiful child. On another note; I have gotten two interviews set up this week. One interview is for an assistant teacher position, the other is for a teller at a bank. I am not sure which job I should go with if I get accepted for them both. I really think its time for me to put my son in school, and that job would be perfect. I could put him in head start while I work, filling satisfied that I can check on him when I need to.  On the other hand the bank job may pay more and be more hours. Now that I am typing it out the school job sounds like the better deal because I could still spend time with my son.

  Also, I really need to start working out again. I need to throw myself into work,school, family, and athletic hobbies to keep myself productive. I am also making a vow right now to wake up earlier each do. I will wake up at 9:00 each morning. I need to learn how to cook healthier food for my family as well. I should only buy foods that are not processed. My fiance is a boxer and is very fit and healthy. I need to do the same for myself. I need to become fit and to keep making positive choices in my life. I feel like a bump on a log right now. Maybe everything is happening to me for a reason. So I can see what I want in life and so I can keep moving forward.  Maybe I can finally decide what I want to do with my life and get to a place where I am happy with myself.
  I am going to school to be a nurse but I no longer feel like that is my calling. I want to go to school for journalism. Unfortunately, they don't have any school around where I live for that. Maybe I can just become an English major and go from their. I want to be a writer. This is what I love doing, and I will do it, even if it is just on the side while I am in nursing school.
  All I know is I want to be productive and I want to provide for my family the best way that I can.I want to move forward with my life, and I want to expand my family. I want to have my daughter and when the time is right, I believe God will answer my prayers and give me the angel I have always dreamt of. All I really know how to do is keep moving forward with my life and hope that everything falls into place.

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Teenage Parenting: You aren't prepared

     Okay so I know I have rambled on a lot about how I am a teen mother, and how I became a teen mother intentionally but I really want to talk to all you young girls out there about what the reality of parenting is. I know that a lot of teenage girls are sexually active & if they are not then they are thinking about it. I just want to let you know that being a mother is not as glamorous as it sounds. I love my son very much, but it was very hard growing up and taking care of a baby at the same time.
  A lot of young women may lie to themselves and say " this is great" but its not. Don't get me wrong there are very rewarding things about being a mother, if you put in the effort. It is also a VERY big struggle though both emotionally and financially. I have coped pretty well with the situation I put myself in, but that is because I had such a great support system and because my baby's father did stay. 9 times out of 10 this is not the case. Your baby's father may love you while you are talking about having a baby, but once the baby gets there it is just way too much for them to handle; then they leave.

  Maybe you have lied to yourself and said " i am prepared for a child"" but the reality is your not. You can't take care of a baby on your own. You have to have someone help and support you. You may say "well I can get a job" well you know what at the age of 15,16,17 you can't get a good job. Even if you do get a good job it can only be part time making minimum wage, most likely at a fast food place. Then you have to think about a car, and gas, food for the baby, all your bills. You have to think a head. I had help until I was 17 years old. I couldn't afford stuff for my baby by myself. I had to rely on my mother-in-law to buy my sons baby food, and WIC to provide his formula. I went to drop my son off at his babysitters(who I couldn't afford to pay) at 6:30 in the morning. Then, I went to school from 7:30-3:00, then I had to be at work at 4:30 and didn't get off till 10. Now imagine doing this everyday and still having to find energy to wake up with your child and to spend time with your child, and maintain good grades. Its very stressful. I had several break downs at school. I would speak to the counselor and just have a nervous break down in the middle of the hall, or in her office. I had no idea why I was crying, I just was;I was emotionally drained.

    You just really have to think about these things ahead of time. I can handle it now, I learned how to cope. No matter how prepared I thought I was; I wasn't. You know most of you mothers will be doing this on your own. I was very blessed to have the man I did by my side.Just do yourself a favor; go to school and graduate. Have fun with your friends. That's another thing, once you have a baby no one wants to be your friend. No one wants to hang out with you and your baby. All my friends promised they would be there for me and that thing wouldn't change but you know what, they did. I never saw my friends. They never called and I wasn't invited out. When I was invited out it was to go to a party and you know what my response was? It was" I can't I have a baby". I am not one of those dead beat mothers who pawns their kid off on their parents so that they can go party. That's not what I signed up for. I missed all the party's, I missed my senior trip,my prom, football games, I missed my high school graduation, and I lost my best friend. I had to graduate from an online high school. My son and my fiance became my best friend. You know I knew what I was getting into. I knew that I would have to give those things up, but a lot of you girls don't realize it.
   I am going to be honest with you. And I am going to give in site to the mothers of teenage girls. You have to watch your children at all times. I have had sex with my mother-in-law in the same room without her knowing. You have no idea how creative teenagers can get. I will write another post for you mothers later on about how to keep a closer eye on your kids. How to make sure they don't end up pregnant. I want to help you and I want you to make sure they don't get pregnant. Even if it's what they think they want. I will help at all cost. You can e-mail me at victoria.baker0102010@gmail.com for advice or questions. I do not condone teen pregnancy and I want to help put a stop to this epidemic by helping all you mothers out there realize what the truth is, and how to keep it from happening to your daughter.

Pregnant Or Not?

Okay so about a week ago I took a pregnancy test. It was one of the cheapies from dollar general(based on the E.P.T) anyway I read the results in the time frame recomended and saw that there was a faint positive. I waited week and tested again yesterday both of which test came out negative. However, I did believe I could see the slightest positive on one of them. My period is a week late, I have milk in my breast( i can squeeze it out) and I have be extreamly tired. Me and my fiance have been TTC our second child. I am really hopeful that I am pregnant with my little girl, but I just don't know. My stomach has been cramping pretty bad today, but I haven't started my period yet. I just really hope that god gives me this baby. It is stressing me out. I wish that if I were pregnant, I would get a clear positive. Or if I am not pregnant I wish my period would just get here already so I can stop worrying!

The joys of motherhood

So I took my son to his cousins birthday party yesterday and he had a blast! We stayed their all day and played in a bounce house filled with water and also in a pool. Well apparently my son got sick their because this morning he woke up and told me that he needed to go to the potty and he didn't make it in time and made a mess all over my toilet. Not like I mind cleaning up after him; I don't. He is my son after all, but I have to admit, cleaning up pooh from my 3 1/2 year old isn't my favorite task. But anyway I'm just going to watch him closely today and push a lot of liquids into him and hopefully he will be better by tomorrow!

The world looking in

Okay so I did a quick survey on the popular site Yahoo Answers.com just to see what people think about teenage mothers on average and the answers I received were very disappointing. I don't see how people could be so cruel. I personally believe that mothers are great, no matter what their age is. I also believe that teen moms can be good mothers. Its not about age, its about your willingness to be a good mother.I know plenty of mothers that are older and are horrible parents. I think most of you can agree with that. Anyway here are some of the answers I received:

 by Rob

unfortunate, but they brought it on themselves

by ρнσєηιχ

 

It's sick, wrong, and irresponsible. Unless the mother was a rape victim.

by `☆｡.°Polls and Surveys°.｡.☆'

they should stay in school and stop trying to grow faster then their heads and body can handle

by   Imp

Either they are victims or they are plain and simply stupid.

by Fred and George Weasley

Either premature mature, or whores and sluts.

by Jason

Not well supervised.

by ღI'м тσσ αωєѕσмє тσ вє тяυєღ™ sa...

$luts/whores.

•  Nicole W.

Can't wait to have sex.
& Slutty!

 

 

 

My point is this; who are these people to judge how good of a mother you are going to be? And why do these people think that teenage mothers are sluts & whores? I know that I personally have only had sex with one person in my life; my fiance of 5 years. So how is it that just by being a teen mother I automatically fall into the category of "slut & whore" when these people don't know me? I know a lot of girls my age that have had sex with over 30 people. They don't have kids, but they do have STD's and yet I am the one who is being referred to as a "slut". My advice to all of you people is this; don't judge a book by its cover. And don't judge a mother because of her age. Why don't you try looking at yourself and counting up how many people you have slept with. Then come talk to me and try to tell me that I am a "slut and a whore".

 

I just want to say this to all the mothers out there; these people do not know you. They do not know what you are capable of and they should be ashamed of themselves. I am proud of all of you who are doing what you can to take care of your children. Keep up the good work, and hold your head up high. "in the eyes of a child you are god"

 

 

All American Girl

Okay so now that you know the truth about teen pregnancy, I wanted to go a little deeper into my situation. I know some of you who are out there reading this must think I was some ignorant little girl who didn't have a family to educate her about teen pregnancy. However, this is not the case. I would describe myself as the all american girl. I was thin, beautiful, and smart. I had a great family and wonderful friends. I do have to admit that my mother was more of a friend to me then a mother.I do not think thats a bad thing in any way. Nor do I think it is my mothers fault. I made this choice by myself and for myself. I love that my mother is like a friend. I can talk to her about anything.

  I know a lot of mothers out there are thinking that this could never happen to them. Of course I am sure my parents thought the same way. I am just going to be honest with you, if your daughter has had a boyfriend more then six months; they are probably having sex. Therefore, make sure she is protected. Don't take no for an answer. And don't be blind. Don't think that this couldn't happen to you.

It happens to every type of family. Rich or poor, dumb or smart, it can even happen to the all american girl.

So i leave you with this bit of advice; expect the unexpected. Keep an eye on your daughter at all times. I give you this information as an insite to mothers with youngv daughters. A peek inside the mid of a teenager. If I were you I would deffinetly pass it on to other mothers.

Starting young : The Truth

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQZBM7cjf4U&playnext=1&list=PL223907D916A38A95Do you every see a pregnant teenager and wonder how she ended up in such a situation? Or better yet do you have a daughter who is a teenage mother and she told you she  got pregnant on accident? What if I told you that teenagers are getting pregnant on purpose?  I know this from first hand experience because I was one of these girls. I am a teenage mother. I had my first son when I was just fifteen years old.

   My name is Victoria. I am a teen mom. The first time I decided I wanted to have a baby was after the first time I had sex, when I was fourteen.  I went on vacation after the incident. We did not use protection and while we were on the phone discussing "What if" we got into the subject of pregnancy. "What if you got me pregnant?" " Well if I did get you pregnant I would take care of you. I would be a better father then my dad was to me" " well maybe we should try." was my response. Don't ask me what I was thinking because I have no idea what made this thought run through my head.

That was it. The decision was made. We would try to have a baby. Him at the age of 13 and me at the age of 14. It sounds pretty stupid now, but we were in love.

I bet you are wondering what would poses a teen to want to have a baby. What would make them want to give up there freedom. And the answer is, I don't know. All I knew is that I wanted to have a baby and give it all the love I could. And I know some of you must be thinking "well maybe she didn't have a good family life. or maybe she wasn't educated of the consequences."
However, this is not true. I had a great family life with all the support I could ask for. I had a mother and a father my whole life. I was also what you would consider "a rich girl".  I have had traumatic experiences in my life such as my brother molesting me for four years. But that is another story that I believe is not related to this one.

Everyone gave me a hard time when I got pregnant 9 months later. My mom knew I was having sex and begged me to get on birth control, which I refused. So obviously she was very disappointed when I told her I was pregnant. Then came the hard part. Telling my dad. he was very angry and didn't talk to me until I was 8 months pregnant. This of course hurt, but I knew he needed his time. Everyone thought I got pregnant on accident. But how wrong could they be.
Home wasn't the hard part when it came to being pregnant. School was where it got tough. Everyone was really mean to me saying I wasn't pregnant, and I was lying, and that I was lying about who my baby's father was. They obviously knew nothing. Then everyone was saying my boyfriend was denying my baby and he was just using me for sex..etc. Which I later found out was not true. But they wanted to ruin my relationship and they nearly did. When I was about 3 months along I started getting threats from girls at my school saying that I wasn't pregnant and that if they hit me they bet I wouldn't go to jail. I of course said nothing because I wanted my baby to be safe. Even now 3 years later people say that I am lying about who my baby's father is. Me and Aden's father have been together for 5 years and are very happy. We have had our rough times like any other couple, but having a family is worth it. 

Next,
 I know you all probably think that if you are a teen parent you will make nothing of your life. Let me be the first person to tell you, you are wrong. I graduated high school and I am now in college to become a nurse, and I have my phlebotomy certificate. Parenting is hard, but its not impossible. I know the struggle, but I know the reward as well. Who is really prepared to be a parent? There is no guide book to tell you how to raise your kids. I have been living with my fiance on my own since we were sixteen. It has been tough, but I am proud that we did it on our own without support. Without the government paying for our things. We are responsible for our children and that's how it is supposed to be. I have to admit. I have a great support system. My family had helped me in so many ways and it wasn't their fault that I decided to start a family young. I am just glad I was blessed with the circumstances I have. I know other teens are not as lucky.
I am now pregnant with my second child. This one was also planned. I wanted my children to be close in age. I am hoping for a girl this time around. I have made mistakes as a mother, but I do the best that I can. And even when times get had I have to remember that it was my decision to have a family young. I have to make sure that I give my kids what they need and want. There needs come first.

So this is something for you to think about. Next time you see a teenage mother, don't feel sorry for her. Maybe she chose to start young. And if your daughter ever tells you she is pregnant, don't assume it was an accident. Or don't just believe her when she says it was. Educate your children and make sure they know about birth control so if they do get pregnant, there is no excuse other then they wanted to. I do not condone teens trying to get pregnant in any way. Don't get me wrong. This was my choice and I if I could choose for other girls I would choose for them to wait. I have lost all of my teen years and waiting wouldn't have hurt. I do not regret my decisions but I do not want others to regret theirs.